I had the pleasure recently of speaking for DMK Skin products and treatments on a Mexican Riviera cruise. Once on the ship I immediately ran to the room to see what I had to contend with. We were in the "Sky walkers" nightclub. When I walked in the room I was instantly freaked out by many things. First of all the ceiling at its highest point was seven and a half feet tall with lighting fixtures hanging below that. Next the tables, benches and dividers were all bolted in place leaving no real space to crack the whip well. As I said I was freaked out.
The day of the speech I worked with the room, but then it came to the part where I crack a target out of a audience members hand. I went into this segment with a wrong mindset. I "knew" it would be difficult. I chose a particularly stout Australian man as my "volunteer." From the start I had problems. The ceiling lights were in the path of the whip. The people right beside me made me uncomfortable. Then it happened..... I hit his hand. This is something that has never happened to me before. Luckily I chose my audience member well. In a thick outback accent he said," That hurt, but not bad.. Kind of like getting lashed in school." The audience laughed I continued to crack at the target and switched to an upward crack and I broke the target. I was mortified that I hit his hand.
Later in the program I choose a person to come to the stage and help me demonstrate the "five F" principles. They do this by learning to crack a whip and hitting a target from my hand in under five minutes. This day I chose another Aussie named Danni. She stepped up and went through he process with me. When she started cracking the whip I noticed she was not having the same problems I was having. In fact she was having the same problems that everyone who first cracks a whip has. I realized she wasn't freaked out by the room. Because she wasn't she did not experience the same problems I had. My being,"Freaked Out" was the belief that was causing my outcome. She did not have that belief and so she had a different outcome.
Right there in that room she taught me a great lesson. Your outcome is based upon your faith in the outcome. I was doubting my outcome because of external obstacles. When you don't focus on obstacles and instead focus on positive outcomes that is exactly what you will achieve. Below you can see Danni hitting that target:
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